Okay so I have done a post in the past about why I breastfeed and how much I love it but I thought I would do an up to date post about my breastfeeding experience.
Jaxon is now 14 months old, and we are still breastfeeding. Jaxon still feeds on demand and somedays he has a lot more than others. I don’t usually mind how little or much he wants to feed except when people say how he shouldn’t be feeding this often at his age.
Ive only been told once or twice but its stuck with me because 1. its none of your business how often my baby wants a boob; And 2. if people did their research they would see how many benefits there are for babies to still breastfeed well into their toddler years.
Breastfeeding Jaxon is probably one of my most treasured experiences and even though at times it is seriously draining its also time for me to just sit and be with my boy.
I got asked when Jaxon was 4 months old if I was going to give up when he got teeth, this was the most ridiculous question to me because I have always planned on letting Jax self wean whenever he is ready. TWELVE teeth in and I can understand why I was asked that. Jaxon bites me constantly and if he has a shallow latch its agony. BUT I am so glad I have preserved through it all because I honestly don’t want to stop breastfeeding anytime soon.
I often get told that the reason Jaxon never sleeps through the night is because he is breastfed but I still don’t think that he would sleep even if he was formula fed, I do think this is a very difficult thing to judge.
Now that Jaxon is getting more and more independent every day it is nice to see him coming back for a quick ‘check in’ feed. As in he can be off playing and then will just come back to me ask for his boob (taps my boobs) has a little top up then he goes off again to play. I think its lovely that he comes back to have a quick hug and boob.
I am also going to say, I am so proud of myself for breastfeeding Jaxon this long with no intention of stopping him before he is ready. The nights are long and tiring being the only one he wants for comfort but its also nice knowing I’m the only one who can sooth him when he’s sad.
I recently had some younger girls saying that my baby looked ‘too big to still be breastfed’. Typically the day I got these comments I was in no way up for confrontation so I just ignored the comments and carried on feeding my baby.
My argument is this; would you look down or make nasty comments to a mother who hands her toddler a bottle of milk? No I don’t think you would. Because if a toddler is seen to be having a bottle of milk its acceptable, because if its comforting them to have a nice warm bottle of milk then who are we to say anything?
But if its a boob that is comforting the toddler its seen as unacceptable or disgusting. I have heard people say that breastfeeding a toddler is purely for the mothers benefit; How its selfish of the mother to continue breastfeeding into toddler years.
Now let me tell you how wrong these comments are, feeding a baby with a mouth full of teeth is not for my benefit in the slightest. Of course I do love the bonding and cuddles with my boy however when my nipples are being bitten or chewed on I sit and think about how ridiculous these comments are. Why would any mother want to purposely be in agony multiple times a day? NEWSFLASH we don’t. But we sacrifices our nipples and our whole body for our little babies because we know how much comfort it brings.
Not to mention how breastmilk continues to change and adapt to our babies needs up until they are two or three, the antibodies are still there and still protecting against cold and flus. There are so many articles, books, papers written on the benefits of extended breastfeeding and if you do ever have any questions about it then they are all readily accessible with a simple google search. Even from my personal experience I have noticed how quickly Jaxon can fight off a cold before it really hits him, and I’ve noticed whenever a cold starts to hit him he starts nursing ALOT more and I do believe its because he knows that the milk I make for him will help fight off whatever bugs are trying to attack his immune system.
My favourite find about extended breastfeeding is how it helps to raise a strong, confident baby who knows their mothers love is always there. Breastfeeding a toddler is more than food, its a reassurance that mummy is there, that mummy loves them and letting a baby self wean from the breast helps to create a trusting, confident, secure little human. Whenever Jaxons has a slight bump or falls down or scares himself while he’s off playing he comes running over and taps my chest, asking for some milk and a booby cuddle. BECAUSE IT COMFORTS HIM!
I will continue to breastfeed Jaxon until he tells me or shows me he no longer wants or needs me in that way anymore.